From the Mailbag: Outfitting the Groom for a Summer Wedding in the Woods
Above suit: Banana Republic Modern Italian Cotton 2-Button Suit – $380.00
Hey Joe,
I’m getting married this summer and am wondering if you’d be willing to offer up any suggestions for some non-tux groom and or groomsman wear. It’ll be an outside wedding, it might get hot, and it’s not super formal but I’d still like to look sharp. I’m about 6’1 190 average build. The wedding’s in a small old logging town and there may be some turn of the century vintage logging style themes present elsewhere.
Thanks for any/all advice or time you’re willing to give.
Eli
Wow, well, first let me say that I’m flattered. Asking for an opinion on sweater fabrics or the best way to spend an Indochino Groupon is one thing, but someone asking for a take on what to wear on his wedding day is another. Pressure’s on. Eli… you sure you don’t want me to just send you, say, a creme brulee set? 90% of the wedding registries I’ve ever seen has one of those on there. Which also makes me wonder why I’ve never had creme brulee outside of a restaurant. You think the odds would dictate otherwise.
You deserve to be comfortable on your wedding day, and Summer + Outdoors can = major trouble. Even though you’ll be surrounded by an awesomely rough backdrop, buffalo plaid flannel or just wool in general is taking a huge risk. And that risk is heatstroke. You should be at ease that day. I hate to punt on this one, but I think a well tailored cotton khaki suit like this 2-button version from Banana Republic is the way to go.
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The fabric is sourced from Italy and it’s nothing short of incredible. The fit is much more trim than you’d expect from BR (but not so trim it wouldn’t fit a 6’1″ 190lbs frame), and the shoulder pads aren’t obtrusive. It’s actually a bit darker in person than the fitting room photos show. And since it’s a GAP inc product, wait for a sale and it could end up 20%, maybe 30% or even 40% off. Again, the fabric is seriously something. Once your wife-to-be walks down the aisle and lays a hand on your jacket sleeve, she won’t want to let go for the rest of the day.
Buck the usual blue tie/brown shoes accompaniment and pair it with a bright white shirt and black tie. Knit even. Black shoes too. Most guys don’t think black goes with khaki but it absolutely does, and it’ll make you look like the groom. If you really want to embrace the entire woodsy lumberjack vibe, maybe (again, maybe) go with a chambray shirt. That’ll drop it quite a bit on the formal/casual scale, so maybe that’s an option for your groomsmen. If you really want a vintage look, there’s always this chambray club collar (think rounded corners) shirt from Rugby.
If Khaki just isn’t your thing, there are a few affordable darker cotton suits out there like this silk cotton blend from Express. Yeah it sounds weird to be wearing Express on your wedding day, but with one of their many online coupons, it’ll end up at around $286. It also looks remarkably good and you won’t completely melt in it.
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Finish it all off with a slick but unobtrusive watch, take your time shaving that morning, and go easy on the hair product. You don’t want your dome to be a melting mess on your wedding day. Keep your knees flexed during the ceremony (remind your groomsmen too) because if you lock em’ you’ll pass out even if it’s only a little bit warm. No matter how well tailored the suit, it doesn’t look good on an unconscious dude sprawled out on the ground.
I saw it happen live once. It was maybe 75 degrees that day. One of the groomsmen locked his knees, passed out, and bit it just as the officiant was delivering the “you may now kiss the bride” line. They were on grass, but he hit his head hard enough that he got a concussion and had to be ushered off to the hospital. Whoops.
Best of luck, and remember that above all else… this is her day, and this is your day. Everyone in attendance should be beyond thrilled to help make that happen. All the best to you Eli, let us know how it goes after the nuptials, and we’ll celebrate you and your new bride here at the Dappered home offices with a round of creme brullee. As long as I can find that set we got for our wedding.
Thoughts? Other wedding day suggestions or tips for Eli? Leave it all in the comments section below.
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Solid recommendation. I can’t believe how good those modern fit suits are looking recently. Used to be tailored fit or a huge boxy suit at BR.
I agree with the khaki suit option. I am not 100% sold on the denim shirt for the wedding unless you are a guest.
I’m getting married in September and I dig the idea of wearing a khaki suit. I dont care if its after labor day – its a beach them wedding near the ocean so khaki will still look good and it will hopefully seperate me from any other guests attending.
I went with the express option you tossed out earlier this year.
https://dappered.com/2011/02/express-suits-review-three-suprisingly-good-options/#
After a $75 off suits sale and a $40 coupon it came out to about $130. Perfect fit will mean minimal tailoring costs if needed at all.
For some reason I’m thinking seersucker suit
This just came up today for me, though I’ll be just attending as a guest.
What kind of shoes would you recommend for the suit on the left?
Light brown oxfords?
Linen is a good option for really hot summers. It depends on how hot it is. I’ve worn my natural linen suit on 112F days.
I love the khaki/chambray combo. Maybe not for a wedding, but it’s great.
Put This On might make you wear a Morning Suit http://www.indochino.com/product/Morning-Coat-Suit
I ran across this suit in the Lord and taylor sale. It’s an additional 20% off and free shipping. Pretty good looking suit for around 160$.
http://www.lordandtaylor.com/eng/men-2_Button_Poplin_Suit_Jacket-lordandtaylor/166313
I think I like it better than the LL Bean Signature. I haven’t seen this in person though as there is no Lord and Taylor around me. Has anyone seen it in person?
I’m facing a similar dilemma, except that instead of being in the wedding party, I am actually officiating my best friends’ outdoor, mid-June wedding. I have no idea what to wear and she has given me the freedom to wear whatever I want. Thoughts?
I’m facing a similar dilemma, except that instead of being in the wedding party, I am actually officiating my best friends’ outdoor, mid-June wedding. I have no idea what to wear and she has given me the freedom to wear whatever I want. Thoughts?
I’m facing a similar dilemma, except that instead of being in the wedding party, I am actually officiating my best friends’ outdoor, mid-June wedding. I have no idea what to wear and she has given me the freedom to wear whatever I want. Thoughts?
There are no Indochino Groupons at the moment that I know of, but I did find one for Neumodo (http://www.neumodo.com/), which makes customized shirts and has a HUGE array of fabrics (200 or so) to choose from, plus choice of cuffs, pocket, monograms, etc.
To get the $30 for $75 worth of Neumodo shirts, go to http://www.groupon.com/r/uu6428518 then pick Canada > Calgary and you’ll see it listed as an “online deal” on the right hand side. Offer ends at midnight MST (2 a.m. Eastern). It has been confirmed that they do ship to the U.S. and Canada.
Enjoy!
Perhaps the Allen Edmonds brogues from a couple of weeks ago?
https://dappered.com/2011/03/brown-dress-shoes-in-every-price-range/
Although expensive they exude style. I’m told that AE will be having a store wide sale starting on April 11th so the price may improve some.
Definitely check out Macy’s for suits as well (This is advice that I actually go from Joe last year around this time). You schedule an appointment with Macy’s by appointment and the person there will gather all the suits for you free of charge and then you can buy them when the next sale comes along. I ended up getting a light grey Tommy Hilfiger slim cut suit for myself and my groomsmen. The suit itself is actually pretty lightweight and I think will be fine for my wedding in June. Everyone ended up paying about $170. The other good thing about this deal is that if you and your fiancee register at Macy’s you get a money back in the form of gift cards from not only the suits but also for everything that is purchased on the registry
Joe –
slightly off topic, but do you have any experience with BR’s tailored fit suits? Is it a slimmer fit compared to the Modern like BR claims on their website.
I’ve been eyeing this one as an alternative to the Indochino Ultimate Grey.
http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/outfit.do?cid=56579&oid=OUT20905
I’m 5’9ish, 165-170 and in the modern fit I’ll usually wear a 38R. For their more tailored fit, which this blazer falls in line with: https://dappered.com/2011/02/the-top-affordable-slim-blazer-of-2011/ I’m a 40 R. I think that BR finally got the hint and has at the very least started to sculpt the sides more on their modern fits. Now, I’ve never tried that specific suit on? But if it’s a tailored fit, I think I’d go with your normal suit size and not size down. Does that make any sense?
Wild, I’ve been asked to officiate a wedding this summer too. I’d honestly check with the groom on this. Because if he’s going with a khaki colored suit, you’ll want some kind of contrast. Just my two cents though…
Makes perfect sense! Thanks for the input. I’ll probably go try one on this weekend
I just bought one of BR’s tailored fit suits this week (in navy) and I have to say it’s the best fitting OTR suit I’ve ever tried on. I’m 5’8″, 150 and the only thing I’ll really need to have tailored is the sleeve length. Torso, shoulders, armhole height, and the fit of the pants were all perfect. For now I’m hoping BR will make the same suit in a darker grey.
Congrats Eli. I am also taking the plunge this summer and we have also decided to do a small affair for our ceremony. The Express Cotton-Silk Blend suit is the way to go in my opinion. Looks refined and sleek while maintaining a formal feel. Best wishes!
Just got the 2-button Italian chino jacket on sale with an extra 35% off. Looking forward to trying it out!
I have the Modern Italian suits listed above, Khaki material; size 33/34; color beige made in Egypt; only worn once and then dry cleaned. I will post it on ebay.com asap at consignments-r-us.
If you are interested, please let me know.