Ask A Woman: What do women think of guys who always wear a ball cap?
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Hi Beth:
I’m 35 and a guy I’ve been hanging out with since college wears a baseball hat every time he steps out of his house. He even wears it to work even though he works inside an office. It’s a really casual place so he’s not getting in any trouble, but I tell him women just don’t take guys seriously who wear hats all the time. He says he likes his hats and women tell him he looks “cute” in them. Who’s right?
– Andrew
Hi Andrew,
As with all things, whether or not baseball hats look good depends on where you wear them, who you’re with, what the occasion is, and so forth. If you live a casual life–your work environment permits casual wear, and your hobbies require casual wear, and the company you keep dresses casually–then a baseball hat is appropriate. And also monotonous, safe, and liable to induce narcolepsy.
The biggest issue I see with baseball hats is that they limit what you wear on the rest of your body. You’re not going to wear a baseball hat with a sharp blazer or a button-down shirt; you won’t wear a baseball hat with fine shoes or pressed pants. If you’re wearing a baseball hat every single day, you are probably living in jeans, sweats, and tennis shoes, which is…BORING. Maybe your friend doesn’t care about style…in fact I’d wager a good amount of money that he doesn’t care about style, which is fine. We don’t judge here. Well, I do, of course, but that’s why I’m paid the big bucks.
As to whether women will take him “seriously”…I think women’s feelings on baseball hats vary in ways that their feelings on, say, clean underwear and cockroaches in the bathroom, don’t. A woman who herself dresses very casually and prefers an evening at Buffalo Wild Wings to a night of stiletto heels and martini-tasting will likely find a man in a baseball hat to be a good match for her. Now if your friend is wearing his hat to wine bars during happy hour and then wondering why none of the professionally-dressed women are interested in him, he needs to either adjust his expectations or take that thing off his head.
Beth
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Editor’s Note: Baseball hats also recently came up in our “growing up your style” feature. To read that, click on over here. And what’s your take? Do you wear baseball hats? When? And for the record, this is one baseball hat I think any guy who’s ever seen “The Natural
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Wear hats by all means, but if you wear a baseball hat all the time it’s as if you can only speak one word in a language, and you repeat it over and over like an idiot. Different hats say different things. I guess Andrew and this guy are not a couple, but Andrew or the guy’s girlfriend should take him shopping for different kinds of hats. Go with a stingy brim first, they’re all hipster. Go from there to a fedora. A panama if it’s summer. Some for dressing up, some for dressing down.
Wear a hat, but wear different hats. I am a HUGE Washington Redskins fan- but I don’t wear skins hats all the time. And when I do, I have one I keep nice and clean for watching the game, or doing something casual, a grungy one for stuff like yardwork and then my this-is-my-favorite-hat-so-it’s-beat-to-hell hat. I hate doing my hair, so prefer to wear hats. My wife doesn’t mind them, but prefers it when I spend the ten minutes actually doing my hair.
I have a different perspective.
Andrew never makes mention whether or not his friend even posed questions like “why can’t I get a date” or “why women don’t find me attractive?” If that was the case, then pointing to his attire may seem appropriate. It seems to me that Andrew’s friend is comfortable in his own skin and finds the baseball hat style one that he genuinely likes. If that’s the case-so be it.
Now if he was having dating issues, then re-evaluating his clothing options may be advisable, but if you are switching outfits or hats that are outside your comfort zone, no matter how popular,hip, trendy or “in season” they are…you are wearing a costume.
That may be an even bigger turn-off.
Its up to the girl if they like a men in baseball hats. But I think they like it because I know somebody who likes men in hats.