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Surprising Your Significant Other With A Trip

November 14, 2013 By Beth | Heads up: Buying via our links may result in us getting a commission. Also, we take your privacy rights seriously. Head here to learn more.

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Beth,

I know how fond you are of gifting experiences rather than just stuff, and since I’m involved with a wonderful woman, I thought heading somewhere nice for the new year (perhaps warm?) would be a perfect gift for the two of us. I recently got a new job and I’m making pretty good money, but I’m no millionaire. As part of the present I would give her a nice travel bag. I’ll put the tickets for our getaway inside her bag and give that to her on Christmas.

But there are a lot of questions that come along with this strategy. Where should we go? Do you have any suggestions? And how do I pull this off while still maintaining the element of surprise? I don’t want to complicate her after-holiday work schedule, or take her out of town when she needs to be in town. Also, I could use a hand with some affordable, but still nice bag suggestions.

Best regards,

Mario

 

Hi Mario,

Wow, what a generous and kind gesture–I think taking your lady on a trip (and getting her a travel bag) is a wonderful idea. And I certainly have my work cut out for me on this question so let’s get started.

Where should you go? That depends on where you are now. If you’re writing from Miami, you probably don’t need to take her to the beach, right? If you’re writing from a rural, sparsely populated area, you probably don’t want to take her to the countryside, right? Take her somewhere different from where the two of you live, so that it feels like a getaway. Also, it depends on how long you want to be away. If you’re going for a week, a sleepy little B&B town is probably not going to provide enough activities to keep you occupied for that long. But for a three-day weekend, it’s perfect.

As for my suggestions…if you want warm, you could always go to a resort–Mexico, Jamaica, the usual suspects, depending on your budget. You probably don’t need my help with those destinations since they’re well-known and easy to book (work with a travel agent if you have specific requirements in mind–they’ve actually checked out all these places so they can give you the inside scoop). For a slightly out of the box destination, La Jolla, California (or any of the small coastal towns in southern California) is a great option. Sleepier and calmer than the party-environment of a beach resort, you can’t beat the natural beauty, restorative atmosphere, and good simple food (bonus if you’re a runner, walker or bike rider–there are tons of trails and paths) of southern California. If you’re open to, um, colder destinations, New York City is a favorite. You can go for a long weekend, or for a whole week. You can do touristy, big-landmark things, or you can walk the streets and discover little cafes and boutiques and bars. Plus, if you go in January, the Christmas decorations will probably still be up. There are so many other options (Southern charm in Savannah! Skiing in Aspen!), depending on your interests.

How do you pull this off? I’ve often wondered how people pull off surprise trips–there are a lot of moving parts. If you want it to be a total surprise, and have it all planned and booked by the time you give it to her as a gift, you might have to get in contact with her boss, to explain what you want to do, and see when would be the best possible time for her to take time off (and then reserve that time for her, through her boss… which might be a little strange). Also, think about other responsibilities she might have that you’d have to account for–if she has a pet, you’ll need to arrange for pet care while she’s gone, etc.

If it’s not possible to book the trip without her knowledge, why not just put a photo of the destination in her travel bag (a view of the beach, Fisherman’s Wharf, a scene of Times Square)? It will still be a big surprise, and then you two can figure out the dates you’ll go together. You’ll probably have to put it off until later (February or even March), but I’m sure she won’t mind. A third option is to tell her ahead of time (now) that her gift is a fabulous trip, which she’ll know nothing about until you exchange Christmas gifts, and then ask what would be the best dates for her to go so that you can book it. She’ll still be thrilled, and she’ll have the next month to look forward to finding out where she’s going.

And now for the the travel bag. I assume you mean a weekender bag, or carry-on bag, not a suitcase, right? Here are some choices:

Bags

For a gal with eclectic taste (someone who wears lots of bright colors, bold patterns, etc) the Vera Bradley Weekender – $98 at top left is a nice choice. VB is a much-loved brand; they’re known for their crazy designs and high quality. Available in other patterns. At bottom left is the Everlane Weekender – $95. This would be a good fit for a woman with simple tastes. It’s attractive but functional, very sturdy, with lots of room. Available in other colors. At right we have the Steven BCaprii Leather Tote – $119.94. For a leather bag of this size, this is an exceptional price. Nice and roomy with a couple pockets inside; this bag could also double as a large handbag. One downer is that this bag doesn’t zipper close, it snaps close, so it’s not as secure. This bag has a classic, elegant styling, so it’d fit a lady with the same taste. More options: check out Stella & Dot‘s array of large bags–reasonable prices and on-trend patterns. LeSportSac is another brand with eclectic pattern options; their bags are made out of highly durable nylon. I’ve had one for a decade and it shows no signs of quitting.

So there you have it, Mario. Guys reading, time to share–what are you favorite January vacation spots? Have you ever pulled off a surprise trip for your other half? How did you do it? Mario, listen up, the men are speaking.

-Beth

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Comments

  1. DXLi says

    November 14, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    Great advice, as always. Arranging for the time off is the hardest part by far. Even if you can contact her boss and sort it out, you still won’t know about other complications/conflicts, and planning a surprise trip could create hassle for her. If you really want to keep the destination a secret, then Beth’s idea about telling her to block out her time in advance is probably the best bet.

    I really like the idea of putting a hint into her bag and then arranging it together with her. If you have some artistic talent, you could put some resources into it and make it look like an old-school travel planner/brochure on fine paper. You could also give her a few options by including a few different photos/brochures. To add just the right amount of tacky fun, you could consider photoshopping yourselves into the photos.

    As for destinations, February is one of the best times to visit New Zealand and Australia. Both are incredible destinations (but pricey). For closer destinations, it’s tough because you live in Miami, which is everyone else’s destination in January. To go warmer, Belize is a great and underrated spot, and everyone speaks English! It is, however, peak season there in January. To go colder, how about a ski trip? Wyoming, Utah, Colorado, etc?

  2. BYC says

    November 14, 2013 at 9:19 AM

    Mario, you are the freaking man. Gifting a trip with the tickets inside a new travel bag is genius.

  3. Eduardo says

    November 14, 2013 at 9:45 AM

    If you are looking for a warmer option, I would suggest going to Puerto Rico. Tickets are cheap (unless you go during christmas time) and stay is not pricey either. Also, you get to visit a different country without the need for a passport or any customs nuances.

  4. easyenough says

    November 14, 2013 at 10:45 AM

    Destination matters, but what you do once you get there matters more, so don’t blow your cash just on the plane and hotel. Trips where you do something – sail, ride a horse, hike, play video games at a game convention, whatever, are the most memorable. Lounging on the beach is good, but is it great?

  5. Greg_S says

    November 14, 2013 at 11:00 AM

    Home run, sir. Also, Beth’s advice is spot on.

  6. Molecular says

    November 14, 2013 at 1:26 PM

    I planned a surprise trip with my Wife during the September long weekend. I told her in advance that we would be going on a long weekend trip but dint tell her about destination, activities and places we will visit. It really helped to tell her as she had to do some shopping (who dosen’t want to buy new clothes? ) and plan accordingly.

    I feel how you want the trip to be a complete surprise but believe me it will make things a lot easier for both you to tell her in advance. Just don’t tell her about the destination how many time she may ask you.

  7. Mike N says

    November 15, 2013 at 6:26 AM

    This is great advice. I actually like the idea of the picture inside the bag and figuring out the dates later. I’d be wary of trying to commit a certain block of time without being positive that it works for her. In general this is an awesome idea. Cold weather destination – Took the Mrs to Quebec for their winter carnival a couple of years back. Was a great experience. Old city has some cool little hotels, everyone speaks French, the atmosphere is great. Like going to Europe on a budget.

  8. Judson M says

    November 15, 2013 at 7:54 AM

    I don’t think he is writing from Miami. Beth was simply implying if he was then the beach would be bad. Sounds to me he is somewhere in a northern state and looking for a warm destination to escape to.

  9. Alan says

    November 19, 2013 at 8:39 PM

    You could always just gift her an IOU for a trip. Tell her where you’re thinking of going and let her nail down the date.

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