Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one, and some stink more than others.
Thanks to all of you who make the comments section on Dappered a rare place of civility. There are very few websites with comments that read and feel like face to face conversations. Most websites are cursed with a comments section that more closely resembles the bathroom wall at an anger management clinic. So to the vast majority of you who treat the comments as if you were speaking to all of us in person, thank you.
That said, it seems like there’s been a slight uptick in comments that are either argumentative, or in some cases stunningly self centered. I’m not asking everyone to agree. That’s just dumb. Nor am I asking for a “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all” policy. That’s not good either (These? Just fine.) What I am asking for is reasonable perspective and tact.
Say John doesn’t like meatloaf. Now pretend he’s at a restaurant table with a bunch of friends who are eating meatloaf. If John blurts out that anyone who eats meatloaf has bad taste, he isn’t just being tactless, he’s being disrespectful. Of course John can say that he doesn’t care for meatloaf. But John would do right by himself to remember that his opinion on meatloaf isn’t a universally held fact. Also, if John were to ask the waiter to have meatloaf removed from the menu because he doesn’t like it, then John needs to have his head examined.
Bottom line fellas, 99.9% of the comments are terrific. And know that the small group of us who work on this site are honestly stunned and thankful for all of the support. Just want to make sure our comments section continues to be one of the best if not the best on the web.
And now if you’ll excuse me, I think I might just go enjoy some meatloaf. And… Meat Loaf.
– Joe
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Your opinions are all wrong and you should feel bad!
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I’ve gotta say this article has me all revved up with no place to go. I couldn’t have said it better, you took the words right outta my mouth. I’ve gotta say I generally enjoy two outta three comments on this site and two outta three ain’t bad. That third comment generally makes me fly off the handle like a bat out of hell. But then I remember what you see is what you get and to some people life is a lemon.
Okay I’ll stop now. My apologies I’m a big Meat Loaf fan.
Nicely put Joe. I agree.
xkcd is a treasure trove of genius.
FIRST!!!!! Oh wait, we don’t do that here.
Meatloaf sucks. I mean the food. Bob from Fight Club is awesome.
C-c-c-combo breaker?
I think half the reason I’ve been reading this site for so long is due to the (usually) amazing comment section. While your posts are obviously top-notch, this is one of the few sites I browse where reading the comment section actually makes the posts better by adding to them.
Joe – I’ve seen websites that require a facebook account to be able to post comments under your real full name. That way people are expected to be more accountable for their postings and more careful what they say.
That’d be a real bummer.
This sounds familiar…
Joe, I responded to your comment on the Shannon Sharpe article. I realize my type of comment is one type being addressed here, but I really didn’t type it with the intentions of being obnoxious or a pain and did not claim the issue to be that series, but rather my own reasons for the question. I post regularly and understand how the comment may have sounded, and I think you are right in this situation, but I just don’t want that one comment to spoil all my other previous or future comments. Just know, I appreciate the site, I enjoy posting regularly, and that comment was a simple opinionated request that I should have worded differently. I am not a fan of that series, but I am of the site. Hopefully my one, out-of-character comment didn’t serve as the sole spark for the “ask the waiter to have meatloaf removed” mention.
Thanks and apologies if that comment was taken heftier than it was intended.
So basically, you prefer hiding behind your nick and posting things you would not feel comfortable saying in person. That’s the whole point.
You got it. Except more than that, I wouldn’t post on fashion (or many other) websites with my real name. I try in general to minimize my Internet footprint.
I’ve seen MagM commenting on here for a long time Greyone and despite using a nickname I’ve never seen anything negative. That’s true of nearly all of the regulars here. That is a big reason why I keep coming back. And of course Joe doing a huge amount of the leg work to fuel a clothing addiction.
Dappered is awesome, keep up the good work.
Says the guy posting as “Greyone99.”
His name is Robert Paulson.
I thought maybe his parents liked Gandalf a lot?
Yeah. Once the clothing inquisition starts, I don’t want them finding me so quick.
This is my first post as I just found the site a couple of weeks ago and have been reading up.
Joe, your request is imminently wise. Your subject matter aids gentlemen who, though limited of budget, endeavor to express outwardly their inner sense of taste and refinement. Posting tasteless, unrefined comments is an action that is not just unconstructive, but also one that works against the best efforts of those who post them to improve themselves.
Kudos to the many men of quality who follow your insightful blog for making the comments a true pleasure to read!
There are two theories on this, being anonymity allows people to confidently be honest versus the theory that true identities create authentic behavior that is more reflective of people’s public persona and allows that information to be tied to their name online.
His name is Robert Paulson.
His name is Robert Paulson.
His name is Robert Paulson.
I really appreciate the comments, as they often point to new and alternative ways of developing style that is not able to be covered in the main article. Case in point: A few weeks ago I saw a comment discussing the Merona watch for $13 at Target. Since I live in a tiny town, Target is the final word, at least locally. Saw the comment, checked out the watch, and went and bought it that afternoon. Thank you for keeping it classy.
The Dappered comments are some of the most helpful and tame comments on the internet. It’s like a bubble of friendship. I think the only bad ones I’ve seen were on the topic of tattoos – it did get somewhat juvenile – then I went over to youtube and realized just how bad comments can get. Thanks for keeping it legit, Joe.