Bachelor Pad Deal breakers
Originally Published 2/1/2010
Dappered recently assembled our resident panel of smart, beautiful, and down to earth women, to this time find out what women hate the most about bachelor pads. Those things about a guy’s place that are absolute deal breakers. The stuff that if she sees it in your home when she comes over, you’ll be from then on fighting an uphill battle for another date.
All our panelists are in their mid 20s to mid 30s and had no shortage of answers. Here’s their top five:
If you’re dumb enough that you fail to put away your adult entertainment before an honest to God real LIVE woman comes over, then you’re most likely hopeless. But this came up from the panel repeatedly. Is a stray magazine or video really that big of a deal? Yes. As Panelist Kelly said, this includes: “Playboys, posters, books, and videos. It’s disrespectful to me.”
#2. Dirty Bathrooms
If you’re hoping she’ll want to see the bits and pieces of you that most people normally don’t lay eyes on, you might not want to have a bunch of short and curly “previews” sticking to the rim of your toilet. Us men will do our business just about anywhere. Women will not. Respect that because if she has to go and doesn’t want to go in your place, she’ll definitely go. Somewhere else.
#3. Mismatched Garage Sale Furniture
You’re not in college anymore. And if you are in college, try to make your place look like you’re not. A busted up old futon for a couch, and a ratty, chipped, falling apart entertainment center from 1974 doesn’t scream sexy. Or whisper it. Your date wants to be impressed with you. You, should want to impress her. If your place looks more like a Goodwill than a home, you might want to work on that. Note: It CAN come from goodwill and 2nd hand shops, but try and scout out the stuff that’s actually appealing, not just the cheapest junk that’s still standing.
#4. Multiple Video Game Consoles and Games strewn everywhere
There is some leeway on this one. Panelist Amber said: “One, or even two is tolerable, but more? I don’t want to date an obsessed “gamer”, sorry” Hide the porn, organize the video games. Just like you had to when you were living with your parents! And if you’re still living with your parents? You might wanna come up with an exit strategy.
#5. Bad Sheets
If you want to maybe, someday, entertain her in your bed… make it an inviting place. Women don’t want to have to worry about catching something from your homeless shelter sourced blankets. From Panelist Juli: “A bachelor should have clean and decent sheets plus a good comforter set on his bed. There’s no better way to discourage a woman from ever picturing herself in your bed than having ugly or mismatched sheets.
Get a real sheet and comforter set. It doesn’t have to be fancy, keep it simple. But also, keep them clean, and make the bed before she comes over.
Avoid having any of those deal breakers visible and maybe she’ll step foot in your place once again.